With nearly one in two marriages ending in divorce it is no secret that the family today is in some trouble. Although few enter a marriage feeling that if it doesn't work out they will hit the eject button, the statistics say it all. It is difficult to stay married in today's world, no matter how much we seem to want to do so! When children are involved of course, the stakes for them can be quite high if the marriage doesn't work out. Dr. Cousins offers both preventative counseling for couples contemplating marriage and couple/marriage counseling for couples and families who are already in trouble, and services for blended families who are in that in between state.
For the preventative approach or "premarital counseling, " Dr. Cousins offers couples the benefit of both a formal and informal assessment by using the PREPARE/ENRICH for customized premarital questionnaire so that individuals can feel assured that they have had a comprehensive discussion with their partner on all of the various facets of personality, attitudes and beliefs, so that they will face fewer surprises later on as they look toward marriage. Those who openly participate in these evaluations will have a better understanding of themselves as well as their partner and how the two of them fit together, as well as potential problem areas which should be addressed before they walk down the aisle and some skills to better their relationship and some practice executing these skills. Similarly married couples can benefit from the 16PF for married couples to see how personality strengths and weaknesses can be addressed in their relationship.
Almost all people who call a marriage counselor or psychologist because their relationship is already in trouble, and usually it has been in trouble for a long time. By some estimates couples wait seven years before picking up the phone and asking for help, although my experience is that recently, the amount of time couples are waiting before calling is lessening as each year goes by, as couples realize more and more the value of getting a little help earlier on. Rather than focus on the latest fad treatment Dr. Cousins synthesizes many approaches to give each couple what they need whether it be discussing their problems in a neutral setting, learning new skills, understanding their family of origin better, their partner better, or acquiring a greater capacity for intimacy. Many of the concepts of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, are used in my couple work because it simply works with couples better than many other approaches, and the research supports it., I also work with other integrative systemic approaches. You get more than the fad of the day therapy, you get someone who has dedicated their life to understanding behaviors and couple patterns and how to address them. I believe however that much of therapy impasses are caused by emotional issues and not simply skill deficits, and couples are given help in working through emotional conflict so that they can be close again and partner effectively.
Dr. Cousins has studied with some of the top couple therapists and has taught and trained couple therapists himself, as well as having done research himself on marital emotional communication and published in top journals such as The Journal of Marriage and the Family and Family Process. He has a good understanding of what each couple needs and is able to understand how to bring happiness back into relationships through understanding, and experience. Dr Cousins is a Certified Relationship Enhancement therapist as well as Board Certified in Couple and Family Psychology by the American Board of Professional Psychology the only Board recognized for couple therapy by the American Psychological Association. If his peers feel that his work is that good, you may also!